This is Cilla. She’s a mum. She’s also a stepmum.
I don’t have any personal experience of stepmum life. However, I do have family and close friends who have/are step-parents and these relationships vary greatly. Some are fantastic. Others are toxic.
We all know about The Wicked Stepmother. She hates her stepchildren, especially if they are girls. She doesn’t really love the children’s father. She’s a gold-digger and has probably hatched a plan to off the lot of them so she can get her hands on the inheritance. She’s wicked!
I met up with Cilla recently. She’s one of the seemingly tiny pool of North London mums in Blogger/Instagrammer land. We drank tea. I got side eyes and then smiles from her baby girl, Shiloh. Cilla told me all about her life as a stepmum. I didn’t realise what a minefield it can be. I mean, I did…but I didn’t really. She spoke so passionately. I was truly shocked by some of what she told me. But, I just knew that I had to get her to write something for my blog.
So, I asked.
And, Cilla has, very kindly, written a guest post for me on some of the things she didn’t realise she would experience when she became a stepmum.
“The Stepmums Club was formed when I became a service user without a service. Off the back of a situation with the birth mum in my life, I found myself angry, isolated and unable to reach out. I sought counsel, but instead came across women who were depressed, desperate and even angrier than me, also going around in circles without resolution. This Club is the resolution. It’s mission is to challenge the bio mum Vs. stepmum narrative, to empower and to promote our role as being just as valid as any other mother’s role! Welcome to the Stepmums’ Club 👊🏾.
5 things I didn’t realise about being a Stepmum.
If you are a stepmum, or you know a stepmum, or you are a bio mum who has a stepmum in her life, or you’re just interested, please go check out The Stepmums Club on Instagram here.
Priscilla’s blog, ‘Unsettled Mum’, is a very raw, honest and refreshing documentary of her life. You can have a read of it here.